IF AT ANY TIME YOU DO NOT FEEL SAFE ON CAMPUS, IMMEDIATELY CALL 911 OR CALL CAMPUS SAFETY AT (503) 961-4040.

Catlin Gabel is committed to providing a campus environment that is safe and healthy. Please use these materials to get help and support when you need it. Students who have been victims of sexual abuse, sexual assault, dating violence, or sexual harassment (collectively referred to as “misconduct” in this Support and Resources Guide) who would like support or help can find assistance both on campus through any CARE team member and off campus through many external resources listed in these materials. Catlin Gabel provides the following information to protect, support, and empower its students.

Catlin Gabel has clear policies prohibiting all forms of sexual misconduct, including sexual harassment, sexual assault, dating violence, and educator sexual misconduct. Review these policies so you can play a personal role in preventing assault, harassment, and other forms of sexual misconduct in the Catlin Gabel community.

Our Discrimination and Harassment Prevention Policy, located in the Catlin Gabel Family Handbook, affirms the school’s intolerance for harassment, describes the type of conduct that is prohibited, sets forth the school’s complaint process if you or someone you know has been subjected to harassment, and explains the consequences for violations of the school’s policy.

If you or another student has been a target of sexual harassment, sexual assault, sexual abuse, relationship violence, or any other form of sexual misconduct, we are here to support you.

Please contact any of the members of the CARE Team so we can help you.

CARE TEAM

Head of Upper School

Aline Garcia-Rubio

(503) 297-1894 ext. 4001

Garcia-RubioA@catlin.edu

Upper School Counselor

Dan Petrocelli

(503) 297-1894 ext. 4020

PetrocelliD@catlin.edu

Upper School Counselor

Erin Gilmore

(503) 297-1894 ext. 1013

GilmoreE@catlin.edu

Middle School Counselor

TBD

Upper School Dean of Students

John Harnetiaux

(503) 297-1894 ext. 4003

HarnetiauxJ@catlin.edu

Beginning and Lower School Counselor

Tracy Vitellaro

(503) 297-1894 ext. 2020

VitellaroT@catlin.edu

You may also contact the following administrators, who will help you.

ADMINISTRATORS

Head of School

Tim Bazemore

(503) 297-1894 ext.5001

BazemoreT@catlin.edu

Assistant Head of School

Kama Bruce

(503) 297-1894 ext.5002

BruceK@catlin.edu

Director of HR

Gloria Martin

(503) 297-1894 ext. 5081

MartinG@catlin.edu

Head of Middle School

Tico Oms

(503) 297-1894 ext. 3001

OmsT@catlin.edu

Head of Beginning and Lower School

Nick Zosel-Johnson

(503) 297-1894 ext. 1001

ZoselJohnsonN@catlin.edu

As explained in more detail in the following sections, you may want to consider these actions.

• COUNSELING: Counseling for current students is available in each division. Referrals for community resources can be made through the school’s counselors as well.

  
  

• MEDICAL CARE: If you have been injured, you may require immediate medical attention. You could be treated by a school employee or taken to an emergency room.

  
  

• MEDICAL FORENSIC EXAM: Physical evidence may be collected from your body and clothes within 72 hours of a sexual assault. A report to law enforcement is not necessary for an exam.

  
  

• PRESERVING EVIDENCE: You may consider saving any evidence (including evidence on the body) until you decide if you want to report to the school, law enforcement, or both. Evidence may be useful in proving that a reported incident occurred or pursuing legal remedies.

  
  

• REPORTING TO LAW ENFORCEMENT: We encourage you to make a report to local law enforcement, but whether you do that is your decision. You can report to law enforcement in addition to or instead of the school. If you ask a member of the CARE Team or any other school administrator to help you make a report to law enforcement, we will do that.

  
  

• REPORTING TO THE SCHOOL: We encourage you to make a report to the school, but whether you do that is your decision. You can report to the school in addition to or instead of local law enforcement. Reports can be made to the CARE Team or any other trusted adult on campus.

  
  

• REMEDIES AND ACCOMMODATIONS: We can arrange for reasonable accommodations to ensure your safety and well-being on our campus. Accommodations may include class changes, academic support, moving your locker or parking place, and no-contact orders issued by the school if both the survivor and accused are Catlin Gabel students.

  
  

• ADVOCACY: You are encouraged to contact a crisis advocate (unaffiliated with the school) for emotional support.

  
  

• LEGAL ASSISTANCE: The school does not provide legal assistance or legal advice to students. Free legal assistance in criminal and civil proceedings may be available to survivors of sexual assault from community organizations. You can also hire a private attorney.

If you have experienced sexual harassment, including sexual assault, sexual abuse, or sexual misconduct, you have the following rights.

• To talk to anyone about the harassment, assault, abuse, or misconduct;

  
  

• To report to law enforcement, the school’s CARE Team, or both;

  
  

• To decline to make a formal report to law enforcement or the school and decline to talk to anyone about your experience. You also have the right to change your mind at any time about talking to someone;

  
  

• To have someone (such as a friend or your advisor) with you to provide emotional support when you talk to law enforcement or the school’s CARE team;

  
  

• To be informed (via these materials) of existing resources and services on campus and within the local community, including counseling, medical and mental health services;

  
  

• To receive a medical forensic examination at a hospital (usually done within 72 hours of an assault, to capture the most evidence), whether or not you file a report to law enforcement;

  
  

• To get a free wellness exam, including emergency contraception and sexually transmitted infection prophylaxis if indicated, from an off-campus medical service within seven days of an assault;

  
  

• To file a report with the school that may lead to school disciplinary action, if the accused is another student;

  
  

• To file a report with law enforcement that may lead to criminal charges against the accused;

  
  

• To decline to participate in the school’s investigation, if you do not want to be involved in it (any student who experienced assault or misconduct will not be disciplined or retaliated against for refusing to participate in an investigation);

  
  

• To be informed of the outcome of the school’s investigation, including whether a policy has been violated, to the extent permitted by applicable confidentiality laws; and

  
  

• To be notified of reasonable accommodations from the school that are available to minimize the impact of your harassment or assault on your educational experience.

This list is not intended to be exhaustive. Survivors may have additional rights, and you may wish to contact outside resources to explore those rights.

Students who believe they have experienced sexual harassment, including assault or misconduct, are strongly encouraged to seek help immediately from their parent/guardians and/or a trusted adult on the Catlin Gabel campus, including any member of the CARE Team. Students should call 911 if they need or witness a need for immediate police and/or medical attention. Any Catlin Gabel community member — not just the subject of the alleged abuse — may make a report.

Reporting sexual harassment, especially sexual assault or misconduct, can be difficult. Students who have experienced it (or witnessed the behavior) may have various emotions when considering whether to report the conduct, especially if such a report may result in a mandated report to the local authorities. Catlin Gabel encourages anyone who has experienced or witnessed harassment of any form to prioritize their personal safety and physical/emotional well-being by seeking support.

You can report your experience to law enforcement or to the school or both.

A. Reporting to Law Enforcement

Survivors have the option of reporting to law enforcement, instead of or in addition to the school. Counselors and administrators can facilitate this process and may coordinate with law enforcement to conduct the interview on campus if that is what you want. Survivors do not have to talk to police and can change their minds at any time. After their investigation, law enforcement may refer the report to the District Attorney’s office for prosecution. The District Attorney will decide whether to file charges. Survivor information is generally confidential and is rarely publicly disclosed.

If you want to make a report to law enforcement, you can contact the local police department or sheriff’s office, or if you are under 18 years of age, you can call the DHS child abuse reporting hotline, 503-731-3100.

Even if the survivor does not contact the authorities, the school may do so if we feel that the campus community is in danger or if we have a duty to report the abuse.

B. Reporting to Catlin Gabel

Survivors have the option of reporting to the school, instead of or in addition to law enforcement. Reports may be verbal or written and must be directed to the school. A report to your peers, or a report posted on social media, is not considered a report to the school. When reporting an incident, it is helpful for the reporting party to provide as much information as they can recall and are comfortable sharing, including a description of the incident, the number of occurrences (with dates and places), the names of any witnesses, and any evidence that is related to the incident.

Due to Oregon’s mandatory child abuse reporting law, every Catlin Gabel employee has a legal obligation to report to local authorities when they have a reasonable suspicion that someone under 18 years of age has been the victim of abuse. Abuse includes sexual assault and sexual misconduct.

You can make a report to Catlin Gabel in whatever way you are most comfortable. Here are the three ways we encourage you to consider:

REPORT TO A COUNSELOR

Reports can be made to our school counselors. As with all employees of Catlin Gabel School, counselors are mandatory reporters, not confidential advocates, and they are therefore legally obligated to share information with school administration and outside authorities if:

1. they are concerned that the survivor will harm themself or someone else, or

   
   

2. they are concerned that the accused will harm themself or someone else, or

   
   

3. what they learn causes them to have a reasonable belief that someone under 18 years of age has been the victim of abuse (including sexual abuse), or

   
   

4. what they learn causes them to have a reasonable belief that a person with whom they have come in contact has abused a child.

Counselors also have an obligation to report to the administration any reasonable suspicion of sexual misconduct by an employee, whereupon it will be reported to the appropriate state agency for investigation.

See What Happens When a Report is Made to the School to learn what the school will do once it receives a report.

REPORT TO A CARE TEAM MEMBER

Reports can be made to our CARE Team. As with all employees of Catlin Gabel School, members of the CARE Team are mandatory reporters, not confidential advocates, and they are therefore legally obligated to share information with school administration and outside authorities in the same manner as a counselor. Members of the CARE Team also have an obligation to report to the administration any reasonable suspicion of sexual misconduct by an employee, whereupon it will be reported to the appropriate state agency for investigation.

See What Happens When a Report is Made to the School to learn what the school will do once it receives a report.

REPORT ANONYMOUSLY

Anonymous, confidential reports may be submitted in a number of ways:

• Option 1: You can anonymously make a report by using this anonymous report form specific to sexual assault. You may also access the form by typing the following URL in your browser: http://tinyurl.com/z764y34

  
  

• Option 2: You can also use SafeSchools Alert, which has an anonymous reporting tip line. There are five different ways to access SafeSchool Alert:

  
  

• USE THE APP: Search for “SafeSchools Alert” in the App Store to download it

• PHONE: (971) 351-1754

• TEXT: (971) 351-1754

• EMAIL: 1832@alert1.us

• WEB: http://1832.alert1.us

When you submit a tip to Safe Schools Alert, be sure to use our school’s identification code — 1832 — in your communication. The tip line alerts the Head of School, Assistant Head of School, the Director of Human Resources, and the Audit Committee Chair of the Board of Trustees. All anonymous tips are treated as confidential.

See What Happens When a Report is Made to the School to learn what the school will do once it receives a report.

Catlin Gabel cares about its students’ safety and health. We want students to feel comfortable coming to us to report sexual harassment, assault and other sexual misconduct that interferes with the ability to thrive and feel safe in our educational community. School employees responding to a report will promptly assist the student who has experienced sexual misconduct in obtaining any necessary medical care and other support and will provide a copy of this Support and Resources Guide to the student. (Catlin Gabel will typically also offer assistance and support to the student accused of sexual misconduct.) The school will discuss with both parties the need for the school to inform their parents/guardians of the report. The CARE Team and the students’ advisors are usually informed of the report.

IF THE ACCUSED IS A STUDENT, the school will immediately assess whether the student accused of misconduct poses a risk to other students’ safety on campus. The school determines whether the student poses an immediate threat to the physical health or safety of any student or other individuals, such that it would justify the student’s removal from campus pending an investigation. The school reviews objective evidence, such as whether the student has violated school policies in the past and whether there is any history of violence or aggression other than what has just been reported. Catlin Gabel also weighs how long a school investigation might take to complete, and whether it is possible to separate the affected students such that they could both successfully attend school. The school may consider other factors in its safety and risk assessment. Catlin Gabel’s assessment is done on an individualized basis and the school retains discretion at all times to make the decision to remove a student from campus. A student’s removal does not mean guilt should be presumed.

Catlin Gabel has also established a PS-12 sexual incident response protocol (SIRP) to provide a consistent process in supporting students, families, and the school in examining incidents that may involve sexually problematic behavior between students. The SIRP is a complement to the risk assessment described above. The SIRP provides the school with a formal framework to assess developmentally non-normative behaviors, protect students from additional harm, and prioritize the privacy of all students involved. If behaviors are determined to be outside of what is developmentally normative, a team will assemble to review the case applying a specific Level 1 protocol – that is, assessing the severity of student behavior and identifying immediate needs for support, safety, and supervision. Results of the Level 1 process may include taking no action, developing a school-based plan for the student, formulating a school safety plan, enlisting outside expertise and guidance, referring the affected student for outside evaluation and services, and/or convening a Level 2 protocol team with additional outside experts to further evaluate the situation and take steps to ensure student safety and wellbeing.

IF THE ACCUSED IS A CATLIN GABEL EMPLOYEE, the school will immediately put the employee on a leave of absence while promptly referring the report to law enforcement and DHS for investigation.

IF THE STUDENT MAKING THE REPORT WAS ENGAGED IN CONDUCT THAT VIOLATED THE STUDENT CODE OF CONDUCT AT THE TIME OF THE SEXUAL ASSAULT (for example, using drugs or alcohol at an off-campus party), the school will give that student “amnesty” and not discipline the student who makes the report or causes the report to be made, provided the drug and alcohol policy violation is discovered as a result of the report and the reporting student did not give another person alcohol or drugs without the person’s knowledge and with the intent of causing the person to become incapacitated and vulnerable to the prohibited conduct. The same amnesty will be applied to students who participate in an investigation.

IF CATLIN GABEL HAS A REASONABLE BELIEF THAT A CRIME MAY HAVE BEEN COMMITTED, the school will promptly notify law enforcement (and DHS if the conduct involved a student under 18). Law enforcement typically does its own investigation and does not want the school to be concurrently investigating. The school will not proceed with its own investigation until it has the local authorities’ approval to do so. Catlin Gabel’s investigation is separate from any investigation that might be conducted by the local authorities.

ONCE CATLIN GABEL CAN PROCEED WITH ITS INVESTIGATION, the school will typically engage the services of an external investigator with experience in trauma-informed investigations to gather information about the allegations and generate findings. The school’s investigation could involve separate interviews of the survivor, the accused, and any witnesses, as well as a review of any evidence (such as hard-copy or electronic communications between the students or their peers before or after the incident). The investigator will help determine if any school policies have been violated using a preponderance of the evidence standard (meaning there is a greater than 50% chance, based on the evidence). The investigation will typically be overseen by the Head of School and the school’s legal counsel.

Catlin Gabel encourages all affected students to participate and cooperate in its investigation process. The school will not force a student who has experienced sexual assault or abuse to participate in an investigation. The school will to the best of its ability conduct an investigation, regardless of the survivor’s participation. (If the student does not participate, however, it could limit Catlin Gabel’s ability to conduct a thorough investigation.) Any student accused of sexual assault or abuse must participate in the investigation or will be asked to leave Catlin Gabel.

If a student initiates a complaint, that student and their parents will be notified when the investigation is initiated and concluded. The student will also be informed whether a violation of any policies was found to have occurred, to the extent allowable under state and federal student confidentiality laws. (Privacy rights generally restrict the school from being able to discuss a student’s disciplinary record with another student.) Disciplinary action will be taken against a student who violates school policies.

Catlin Gabel will continue to provide academic and emotional support during and after an investigation.

The investigator does not make a decision about what disciplinary actions, if any, are appropriate. The school does that, based on the findings of the investigation. This type of alleged conduct will not be heard by the Judicial Council.

The school will inform the student who reported the conduct about the findings of the investigation and whether a violation of any policies was found to have occurred, to the extent allowable under state and federal student confidentiality laws.

The school will also inform the student accused of misconduct about the findings of the investigation and any disciplinary consequences.

Any individual who violates our sexual harassment policies will be subject to appropriate disciplinary action, up to and including suspension or expulsion from school. The school also reserves the right to impose additional responsive actions as may be appropriate to the circumstances. (For example, the student could be restricted from attending certain off-campus or school-sponsored events, or removed from a school leadership position or club activity, or asked to agree to a no-contact order if one is not already in place.)

Our policy imposes stricter standards of behavior than those provided by law. The school retains the authority to discipline a student for inappropriate conduct even if it does not meet the legal definition of harassment and even if the conduct is not found to be a crime.

If an investigation results in a significant disciplinary response for a Catlin Gabel student or employee, the school may report the outcome to its faculty and staff. The disclosure would include the nature of the allegation(s) but not the name of the reporting student.

For any disciplinary action short of suspension or expulsion (situations where the discipline is obvious and apparent to students), students will most likely not be aware of the level of disciplinary action for a student accused of misconduct. Student discipline is almost always a private matter and will only in rare instances be disclosed to the community. If the Head of School determines that disclosure to the broader community is necessary to ensure the safety of students, such a disclosure would not reveal the identity of the reporting student.

Retaliation is any form of intimidation, reprisal, or harassment directed against a student who in good faith reports sexual harassment, provides information during an investigation, or witnesses or has reliable information about such behavior. Retaliation for reporting sexual harassment or for participating in an investigation in good faith is prohibited and will not be tolerated. This is true whether the report is against another student, an employee, or any other member of the Catlin Community.

If a student makes a good faith complaint to the school about sexual behavior that may violate our policies or the Code of Conduct, such a report will not adversely affect a student’s educational assignments or study environment. We also will not tolerate retaliation against any student accused of misconduct. It is acceptable for a student to offer support to one student or the other, but it is not acceptable to mistreat any student – whether they are reporting misconduct, accused of misconduct, or otherwise – by engaging in bullying, relational aggression, or other conduct that violates our policies and our Code of Conduct.

Any student engaging in retaliation against a reporting student, an accused student, or any other involved student – whether it is in person or via social media or other electronic or written means – is in violation of our policy and will be disciplined accordingly.

Examples of retaliation include but are not limited to the following examples:

• Peers of a student accused of misconduct who learn of the complaint and then socially ostracize or otherwise mistreat the individual who made the complaint;

  
  

• Peers of a student reporting misconduct who learn of the complaint and then socially ostracize or otherwise mistreat the individual who is accused of misconduct, when the report has not been substantiated either because the investigation is pending or the investigation did not substantiate the allegations;

  
  

• Teachers giving an unfair grade to a student because the student reported misconduct, has been accused of misconduct, or has participated in an investigation;

  
  

• Unwanted attempts to contact the student(s) involved in the report;

  
  

• Spreading rumors about the student(s);

  
  

• Threats, bullying and harassment of any kind, either in person or via social media.

Catlin Gabel does not tolerate retaliatory behavior. If you (or someone you know) is being retaliated against, you should immediately bring it to the attention of your advisor, the Dean of Students, or your Division Head. Retaliation against any individual for making a report, for participating in an investigation, or for supporting a student who has made a good faith report will not be tolerated. Any students who engage in retaliation will be subject to disciplinary action up to and including suspension or expulsion from school.

We are committed to our students’ safety and well-being. The school can support survivors by providing various protective measures and other reasonable safety accommodations if a survivor requests them. For example, changes to class schedules, workload and course enrollment, or extracurricular activities may help a student feel safe and emotionally supported and would therefore be considered by the school as possible accommodations. A report to law enforcement is not necessary to receive these accommodations.

In providing specific accommodations and protective measures, it may be necessary to disclose to affected faculty or staff the identity of the survivor and accused, as well as the reason for the accommodations and protective measures. The school will protect the confidentiality of all parties as much as is practicable under the circumstances.

This is a list of some of the accommodations available to survivors. Other accommodations may be made on a case-by-case basis. The Dean of Students and CARE Team members can help survivors coordinate remedies and accommodations.

• If the survivor and accused share a class, one student may be able to change sections. If this isn’t possible, the administration can work with faculty to try to find an accommodation that will minimize the academic impact on the survivor.

  
  

• The Dean and/or counselor may be able to help arrange additional tutoring and other academic support and can alert faculty that a survivor may be experiencing difficulty in meeting the usual academic expectations and may need to have deadlines extended or the opportunity to retake an assessment or repeat a class.

  
  

• The Dean or counselor can also help arrange a leave of absence from the school for the survivor.

  
  

• Counseling is available to all students. Contact the school counselor for information on receiving counseling and for medical care referrals.

  
  

• Campus security can be increased in certain areas of campus.

  
  

• No-contact orders (NCOs) issued by the school prohibit persons from contacting each other in specified ways. NCOs can only be issued between Catlin Gabel community members. Note also that an NCO will usually not prohibit the accused from being at the same school-wide or class-wide events as the survivor, but the NCO can prohibit the parties from directly communicating with each other. Violation of an NCO will typically result in discipline (e.g., loss of other school privileges).

• Beaverton City Victims’ Assistance Program, 503.526.2215

• Bradley-Angle House, 503.235.5333

• Call to Safety, 503.235.5333

• CARES Northwest, 503.276.9000

• Oregon Department of Human Services Child Abuse and Neglect Reporting, 503.731.3100

• Clackamas County Victims’ Assistance Program, 503.655.8616

• Clackamas Women’s Services (in Oregon City), 503.654.2288

• Department of Human Services (aka Child Protective Services), 503.731.3102

• Domestic Violence Resource Center (in Hillsboro), 503.469.8620

• El Programa Hispano-Project UNICA, 503.232.4448

• Multnomah County Domestic and Sexual Violence Services, 503.988.6400

• Healing Roots Village, 503.235.5333

• Social Venture Partners, 503.280.1388

• Multnomah County Victims’ Assistance Program, 503.988.3222

• Native American Family Healing Circle, 503.288.8177

• Refugee and Immigrant Family Strengthening: A Program of IRCO, 503.234.1541 x179

• Sexual Assault Resource Center (in Beaverton), 503.640.5311

• TransActive Gender Center, 503.252.3000

• Washington County Counseling and Victims’ Services Program, 503.846.8671

• YWCA/Yolanda House, 503.535.3269

MEDICAL CARE

Survivors may have injuries from the assault and need immediate medical attention.

Call 911 if there is a medical emergency.

Survivors may have concerns about unwanted pregnancy or sexually transmitted infections (STIs). You may wish to have a wellness exam and obtain emergency contraception or prophylactic drugs that can prevent some STIs. The State of Oregon pays for a wellness exam at many medical offices within seven days of the incident (contact providers for more information).

Our school’s CARE Team and counselors can provide referrals for obtaining emergency contraception and sexually transmitted disease prophylaxis from community resources, including the following organizations:

• Call to Safety (503) 235-5333

• Planned Parenthood (888) 875-7820

MEDICAL FORENSIC EXAMS

These exams are for survivors of sexual assault and typically must be conducted within 72 hours of the physical contact. It is not necessary to report to law enforcement in order to receive an exam; the survivor can have the evidence collected and decide later whether to report. Kits done in Washington County are held for a minimum of six months. To collect evidence that may be used in prosecution, a trained nurse examiner will take swabs and samples from the survivor’s body and will collect clothes the survivor was wearing during or after the incident. The nurse will also document injuries and, if indicated, will offer emergency contraception and sexually transmitted disease prophylaxis (medications that can prevent some diseases from developing). If you are considering a forensic exam, it is best not to shower, change clothes, eat or drink, or go to the bathroom before the exam.

In Washington County, where Catlin Gabel is located, and in Multnomah County, where much of Portland is located, exams are conducted in hospital emergency rooms. There is no cost for the exam. An advocate or friend can accompany the survivor.

SAVING EVIDENCE

Even if you are not sure whether you want to make a report to the school or to law enforcement, preserving evidence keeps those options open for the future. Evidence might include clothing you were wearing, bedding or other items that the perpetrator touched, written documentation such as hand-written notes, and digital documentation such as texts, emails, voicemails, or other contact via social media. To preserve evidence, you may want to consider taking pictures of any injuries (including bruises, cuts, scratches, etc.).

LEGAL ASSISTANCE

Civil and criminal remedies may be available to the survivor through the legal system. Those remedies may be subject to statutes of limitation. The school does not provide legal assistance or legal advice to students. Information on survivors’ legal rights may be found on the Oregon Crime Victims Law Center website (this organization provides free legal assistance to survivors of sexual assault and other violent crimes). Survivors may consult a private attorney or an agency that offers free or low-cost services for survivors. The Victim Rights Law Center, for example, provides free legal assistance to survivors of sexual assault.

Oregon Crime Victims Law Center

(503) 208-8160

http://www.ocvlc.org/

Victim Rights Law Center

(503) 274-5477

http://www.victimrights.org/

PROTECTIVE ORDERS

Protective orders are court orders that limit the contact an abuser can have with the survivor. When provided with compelling evidence, Oregon courts issue protective orders for sexual assault, dating or domestic violence, criminal harassment, and stalking. To obtain a protective order, the survivor must complete and file a petition in the circuit court in the county where either the survivor or the abuser live.

You can obtain the form at the local courthouse or online at http://www.courts.oregon.gov/programs/family/forms/Pages/protective-orders.aspx.

Assistance in applying for protective orders is available from advocates in the Multnomah or Washington County courthouses. It is not necessary to file a police report to apply for a protective order, but any violations of the order should always be reported to law enforcement. There is no fee for filing for an order nor for a service of notice to the accused, who is called the “respondent” on the order.

The order is not valid until the respondent has been served and given an opportunity to reply to the court. An order might be contested by a respondent if, for example, they believe it is unnecessary or unfairly restrictive. If the protective order is contested, a hearing will be held. Catlin Gabel honors all court-issued protective orders. Survivors interested in obtaining a protective order may also want to consider contacting a victims’ services attorney (see above) to ensure that their rights are protected.

Self-care means caring for yourself as you would a good friend. It also means not doing things that harm you or make you more vulnerable.

It is okay to ask for what you need, and it is okay to say no if someone wants you to do something. You do not have to take care of anyone else’s feelings. You do not have to protect other people by pretending everything is okay. You do not have to talk to anyone if you don’t want to.

Reactions to and feelings about sexual or relationship violence change over time. There is no right way to feel about abuse or violence, and there is no correct way to practice self-care.

Planning how you will care for yourself can help if you start to feel overwhelmed. Below are some options for a self-care plan:

• Write in a journal

• Make art

• Take a walk

• Exercise

• Eat your favorite food

• Read something inspiring or something that makes you laugh, or listen to a podcast

• Breathe in and out on a slow count of three

• Make a special playlist

• Wear your favorite clothes

• Give yourself permission to feel whatever you are feeling

• Call your friends

• Talk to someone who will listen to you and offer support

Write down three phone numbers you can use if you need to talk. These may be friends, a trusted adult, a counselor, or a crisis line.

Many survivors say that what helped them most in their healing process was the unconditional support of their friends. There is no one right way to respond to traumatic events. Here are some things that other survivors have said were helpful to hear:

• “I’m so sorry you had that experience.”

• “You did nothing to deserve that.”

• “This was not your fault.”

• “No one deserves to be assaulted or hurt by another person.”

• “I believe you.”

• “If you’d like, I’ll help you find out what your options and resources are.”

• “I’ll support whatever decision you make about what to do next.”

• “I’m glad you trusted me enough to share this with me.”

Friends can help by normalizing the survivor’s feelings. It is common for survivors initially not to name what happened to them as rape or abuse, although they recognize something is wrong.

Once they start to feel safer, they may begin trying to understand the experience by talking about it. Friends and allies should be honest with the survivor about what support they can provide, especially if they themselves also have a history of trauma. They may want to remind the survivor that advocates and counselors can offer support.

Reflecting on another person’s experience can make you wonder what you should or could do in the future to help prevent a traumatic event in the first place. Here is some guidance.

SOME SIMPLE STEPS TO BECOMING AN ACTIVE BYSTANDER

• Notice the situation. Be aware of your surroundings.

• Assess if there is a problem. Does someone need help?

• Feel responsible to act. See yourself as being part of the solution to help.

• Know what to do. Educate yourself on what to do.

• Intervene safely. Take action, but be sure to keep yourself safe.

HOW TO INTERVENE SAFELY

• Tell or bring in another person. Making others aware of a situation is a good idea when a situation may be dangerous.

• Ask person(s) you are worried about if they are okay. Provide options and a listening ear. Even if they say they are okay, continue to check in on them.

• Distract or redirect individuals in unsafe situations.

• Ask the person(s) if they want to leave. Make sure that they get home safely.

• Call the police (911) or someone else in authority or yell for help.

WHAT CAN MY FRIENDS AND I DO TO BE SAFE?

Take care of each other. Remember these tips when you are out:

• Have a plan. Talk with your friends about your plans BEFORE you go out. Having a clear plan ahead of time helps friends look after one another.

• Go out together. Go out as a group and come home as a group; never separate and never leave your friend(s) behind.

• Watch out for others. If you are walking at night with friends and notice a student walking alone in the same direction, ask the person to join you so no one is alone.

• Diffuse situations. If you see a friend coming on too strong to someone who may be too intoxicated to make a consensual decision, interrupt, distract, or redirect the situation. If you are too embarrassed or shy to speak out, find someone else to step in.

• Trust your instincts. If a situation or person doesn’t seem “right” to you, trust your gut and remove yourself, if possible, from the situation.

The purpose of establishing a sexual incident response protocol is to support students, families, and the school in a consistent process and protocol for situations that may arise between students. All staff involved in responding to sexual incidents at CGS will participate in training with regard to threat response in which they will learn how to identify problematic sexual behaviors (PSB) and learn whom to inform about PSB when it occurs.

Catlin Gabel has established a PS-12 sexual incident response protocol (SIRP) to provide a consistent process in supporting students, families, and the school in examining incidents that may involve sexually problematic behavior between students. The protocol provides the school with a framework to assess developmentally non-normative behaviors, protect students from additional harm, and prioritize the privacy of all students involved.

INITIAL RESPONSE TO SEXUAL INCIDENT

In collaboration, counselor and divisional administrator interviews the primary reporter, named participants, and potential witnesses using the following screening questions as a guide. During this process, student belongings and student computer history may be searched as deemed necessary and appropriate.

READ AT THE START OF EVERY LEVEL 1 MEETING:

The results of this survey do not predict or diagnose sexual deviance, nor are they designed to assess an individual’s or group’s risk of harm to others. This survey is not a checklist that can be quantified. It is a guide designed to assist Level 1 teams in making a determination regarding whether the sexual incident in question is normative or non-normative and to assist the school staff in the development of a management plan.

The purpose of Level 2 is to obtain expert consultation on plans for safety, supervision and student support.

When a Level 2 Meeting is indicated, the Division Head (DH) or divisional counselor will schedule it as soon as possible, inviting parents, the Assistant Head of School and the following outside partners (Not yet verified):

• DHS - Michael Cleary (503) 693-4555

• Michael Griffin - Washington County Sheriff - Student Resource Officer (503) 710-6658

• Dr. Wilson Kenney - Expert on Problematic Sexual Behaviors (PSB) (971) 258-7993

• Devin Vaughn - Higher Ground Counseling- Expert on PSB (971) 200-1966