The Bullying Intervention Plan

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What happens to the bully?

 

Okay, so my kid is resilient and they have an abundance of tools for combatting verbal bullying. They are confident in themselves and they know what they are good at and how to be the best they can be. What about the kiddo who has been doing the bullying behavior? 
 
The first step to dealing with the bully is to understand that often the bully is a victim in disguise. The person doing this dominating behavior often feels that they have been slighted in some way and this is their way of gaining back power they have lost. Kiddos who tend to dominant other children often experience an array of insecurities. In order to feel better about themselves, they bring others down. Understanding this is imperative in handling bullying behavior. The bully needs help too. 
 
Once an offense happens, the first step is problem solving. The children involved meet with a teacher or me to work out what happened. If needed, apologies are given and a plan is put in place. Depending on the situation, parents are contacted and informed of the situation. If Vicki is involved then parents are always contacted. If an offense happens again and a pattern is identified that child meets with the counselor. A plan is put in place tailored to what the core issue may be. For example, if a child is dominating other children because s/he have a hard time controlling their anger, emotional regulation techniques are taught. Once again, parents are kept in the loop. If these coaching sessions are unsuccessful the Vicki is informed and an outside counseling referral is given. If ever the issue enters the discipline realm, such as a hit or physical altercation there is usually a parent conference and the child is sent home.
 
The over all goal of this bullying intervention plan is meant to support the “victim” as well as the “bully.” The child who is the target of dominating behavior is given tools to strengthen self-esteem and improve resilience. The kiddo doing the dominating behavior is given interventions to address the underlying need to dominate. The goal is to support all the children in the dynamic so that the problem can be unraveled.